Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts

I recently suffered from a breakup with somebody I had been dating for almost a year. The timing was not great, as it occurred right when my previous job was ending and I was starting the job-searching process. I quickly realized I was spiraling into depressive tendencies (staying in bed most of the day, ruminating about things my partner did and what she might be doing now), and I decided to try to help myself out of it by buying this book. The major premise of the book is that we should treat our emotional wounds like our bodily wounds: allowing sufficient time to let them heal AND, most importantly, taking special precautions to make sure they don't get worse. If the former part of that statement is a bit of a truism, as some of the other reviewers have noted, I have found Winch's suggestions for the latter part to be on the whole very interesting and helpful. So far I have read the three chapters on Rejection, Loss, and Rumination. The tone of the Rejection chapter is markedly different from the others and, in my opinion, not effective – it sounds like he had a buzzfeed editor insert quips at the end of each paragraph, all of which fall flat. Fortunately, this trend does not continue into the other chapters, which are more serious in tone and I think more comforting (I don't really want somebody making sh@tty jokes about my sadness). Some of the suggestions he makes for rumination (use a third-person perspective instead of a first when remembering events) and for loss (to try to ask yourself why events happened instead of just how they happened) are both novel and research-based. So far, I think this book has achieved what it set out to. It won't be winning any awards, but it will help stock your "emotional medicine cabinet," if you don't have one already.

Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection . .. arrived just as I went through one of the worst experiences covered in the book. It helped me to move from unimaginable pain to peace and its suggestions were very helpful in my efforts to resolve the situation. It's not completely fixed yet - this takes more time, but this book has made me much more comfortable as I move toward a final resolution. I highly recommend it. It's easy to read, has interesting examples and will hit you right where you live. EVERYBODY experiences the situations the author addresses and EVERYBODY can find help from him. It's more than a great start - it can help a person to gain a more comfortable perspective and feel better about himself/herself - the only thing left for me in my awful situation is the mop up.

This is not a book that I would normally read. It was hard for me to digest because it talks about people’s experiences with death, guilt, accidents, etc. These are topics I tend to avoid because my life is happy, and Divinely protected and guided. If you're happy, make sure you have a good self concept of yourself prior to reading this book. When I start reading a book I felt the need to finish. I paced myself only reading 20-30 minutes at a time for a couple days a week. The examples and treatments given to apply psychological wounds are helpful in case you ever come across these wounds yourself or with others. Some of the examples mentioned were familiar to myself and I’m happy I learned how to treat the wound. Overall, this is a good book with solutions for dealing with psychological wounds.

I became curious about Dr. Winch's work after hearing his TED talk, where he spoke with passion and compassion about his vision for a future where people know as much about tending to their emotional and mental health as to their physical health. The world presents more complex (and interesting) challenges today than ever before. The more we can acknowledge the universality of psychological challenges such as rejections, failures and loneliness, the better we can find ways to manage them together. As someone who appreciates learning materials that are easy to apply and reuse, I love the book for its structured, clear and actionable content. Dr. Winch effectively uses anecdotes from his practice to illustrate how to apply the various techniques.

I was lucky enough to put my hands on an advance copy of this important book. I read it avidly and learnt so much from it. Dr. Winch gives us a tool box for life to deal with psychological everyday but distressing problems as well as how we can indeed benefit from them. Parents should make a point to get the book for their kids as this is an amazing guide for adulthood, college years and throughout life. The outstanding book specifies very clearly when we can practice "self Help" and when we should seek professonal advice. My advice is to keep this book on hand right next to the band aid, as am sure it will and should be referred to as an important manual to accompany us in various points of our life.

For this book, with an appropriate numbering system, I would have qualified it with 5 stars, because what it says is VERY IMPORTANT. Unfortunately, the author and/or his editors and/or whoever had to do with the publication of this important work , has no idea of what an apprpriate numbering system is: When somebody tries to study seriously this book, will find himself quickly lost, because there is no way to find your way within the text in an organized way. For my personal study, I took the pain to scan the whole book and elaborate a numbering system through which I could locate and/or go back easily to the themes that most interested my study. This is it (I hope it will not become distorted here): 0 INTRODUCTION 1 REJECTION 1.1 The Psychological Wounds Rejection Inflicts 1.1.1 Emotional Pain: Why Even Stupid Rejections Smart a Lot 1.1.1.1 Rejection Rejects Reason 1.1.2 Anger and Aggression: Why Doors Get Broken and Walls Get Punched 1.1.3 Damaged Self-Esteem: Kicking Ourselves When We’re Already Down 1.1.4 Threatening Our Need to Belong: People Who Need People Are Not the Luckiest People 1.2 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Rejection Inflicts 1.2.1 General Treatment Guidelines 1.2.2 Treatment A: Argue with Self-Criticism 1.2.2.1 EXERCISE FOR ARGUING WITH SELF-CRITICISM 1.2.2.2 Counterarguments for Romantic Rejections 1.2.2.3 Counterarguments for Workplace Rejections 1.2.2.4 Counterarguments for Social Rejections 1.2.2.5 TREATMENT SUMMARY: ARGUE WITH SELF-CRITICISM 1.2.3 Treatment B: Revive Your Self-Worth 1.2.3.1 EXERCISE FOR REVIVING YOUR SELF-WORTH 1.2.3.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: REVIVE YOUR SELF-WORTH 1.2.4 Treatment C: Replenish Feelings of Social Connection 1.2.4.1 Find New Affiliations with a Better Fit 1.2.4.2 Have a “Social Snack” 1.2.4.3 TREATMENT SUMMARY: REPLENISH FEELINGS OF SO-CIAL CONNECTION 1.2.5 Treatment D: Desensitize Yourself 1.2.5.1 TREATMENT SUMMARY: DESENSITIZE YOURSELF 1.3 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 2 LONELINESS 2.1 Introduction 2.2 What Loneliness and Cigarette Smoking Have in Common 2.3 Loneliness Is Contagious 2.4 The Psychological Wounds Loneliness Inflicts 2.4.1 Painful Misperceptions: Why We Feel Invisible but Our Loneliness Isn’t 2.4.2 Self-Defeating Prophecies: Why Trying Harder Leads to Failure 2.4.3 Atrophied Relationship Muscles: We Use Them or We Lose Them 2.5 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Loneliness Inflicts 2.6 General Treatment Guidelines 2.7 Treatment A: Remove Your Negatively Tinted Glasses 2.7.1 Fight the Pessimism! 2.7.2 Give the Benefit of the Doubt! 2.7.3 Take Action! 2.7.4 EXERCISE FOR IDENTIFYING AVENUES FOR SOCIAL CONNECTION 2.7.5 TREATMENT SUMMARY: REMOVE YOUR NEGATIVELY TINTED GLASSES 2.8 Treatment B: Identify Your Self-Defeating Behaviors 2.8.1 EXERCISE TO IDENTIFY SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIORS 2.8.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: IDENTIFY BEHAVIORS THAT WORK AGAINST YOU 2.9 Treatment C: Take the Other Person’s Perspective 2.9.1 Failing to Engage Our Perspective-Taking Muscles When We Should 2.9.2 We Favor Our Own Point of View 2.9.3 We Consider the Wrong Information 2.9.4 Perspective-Taking Errors in Intimate Relationships 2.9.5 TREATMENT SUMMARY: TAKE THE OTHER PERSON’S PERSPECTIVE 2.10 Treatment D: Deepen Your Emotional Bonds 2.10.1 How to Access Our Empathy 2.10.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: DEEPEN YOUR EMOTIONAL BONDS 2.11 Treatment E: Create Opportunities for Social Connection 2.11.1 Go Online 2.11.2 Volunteer to Help Others 2.11.3 TREATMENT SUMMARY: CREATE OPPORTUNITIES FOR SOCIAL CONNECTION 2.12 Treatment F: Adopt a Best Friend 2.12.1 TREATMENT SUMMARY: ADOPT A BEST FRIEND 2.13 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 3 LOSS AND TRAUMA 3.1 The Psychological Wounds Loss and Trauma Inflict 3.1.1 Life Interrupted: Overwhelming Emotional Distress 3.1.2 Identity Interrupted: How Loss and Trauma Challenge Our Roles and Self-Definition 3.1.3 Beliefs Interrupted: Why Loss and Trauma Challenge Our Percep-tions of the World 3.2 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Loss and Trauma Inflict 3.2.1 General Treatment Guidelines 3.2.2 Treatment A: Soothe Your Emotional Pain Your Way 3.2.2.1 TREATMENT SUMMARY: SOOTHE YOUR EMOTIONAL PAIN YOUR WAY 3.2.3 Treatment B: Recover Lost Aspects of Your “Self” 3.2.3.1 EXERCISE TO RECOVER LOST ASPECTS OF YOUR “SELF” 3.2.3.1.1 List your qualities, characteristics, and abilities that you valued in yourself or that others valued about you before the events occurred (aim for at least ten items). 3.2.3.1.2 Which of the above items feel most disconnected from your life today or tend to be expressed less today than they had been previously? 3.2.3.1.3 For each quality you listed, write a brief paragraph de scribing why you feel disconnected from the attribute in question or why the quality is no longer expressed as ex-tensively as it had been previously. 3.2.3.1.4 For each quality you listed, write a brief paragraph de scribing possible people, activities, or outlets you could pursue that would allow you to express the quality in a more substantial way than you are able to do currently. 3.2.3.1.5 Rank the items from the previous question according to which of them seem both doable and emotionally man-ageable. 3.2.3.1.6 Set yourself the goal of working through the list as best you can and at whatever pace seems most comfortable (taking into account that taking action on each of the items is likely to cause at least some emotional discomfort at first). By working through the items on your list you will begin 3.2.3.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: RECOVER LOST ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF 3.2.4 Treatment C: Find Meaning in Tragedy 3.2.4.1 How to Find Meaning in Tragedy 3.2.4.1.1 Make Sense of Tragic Events by Asking Why, Not How 3.2.4.1.2 Make Sense of Tragic Events by Asking What Might Have Been 3.2.4.2 THOUGHT EXERCISE: “WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN” 3.2.4.2.1 How would your life be different today if the events had not happened? 3.2.4.2.2 In what ways could the outcome of the events have been even worse than they were? 3.2.4.2.3 What factors prevented these worse outcomes from occurring? 3.2.4.2.4 How grateful are you that these worse outcomes did not occur? 3.2.4.2.5 How to Identify Benefits in Loss 3.2.4.3 EXERCISE TO IDENTIFY POSSIBLE BENEFITS 3.2.4.3.1 I never imagined back then that such tragic events would lead me to: 3.2.4.3.2 What I did was significant and very meaningful to me because: 3.2.4.3.3 The first step of my journey toward the achievement was when I: 3.2.4.3.4 My achievement was possible because I changed my priorities such that: 3.2.4.3.5 Changing my priorities led me to make the following changes in my life: 3.2.4.3.6 Along the way I realized my purpose in life is: 3.2.4.4 TREATMENT SUMMARY: FIND MEANING IN TRAGEDY 3.2.5 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 4 GUILT 4.1 Introduction 4.2 Unhealthy Guilt and Relationships 4.3 The Psychological Wounds Guilt Inflicts 4.4 Self-Condemnation: How Guilt Plays Whac-A-Mole with Our Joy and Happiness 4.4.1 A Fight Club of One 4.5 Blocked Relationships: How Guilt Poisons Arteries of Healthy Communication 4.6 Tripping on Guilt Trips 4.7 How Guilt Poisons Entire Families 4.8 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Guilt Inflicts 4.9 General Treatment Guidelines 4.10 Treatment A: Learn the Recipe for an Effective Apology 4.10.1 The Recipe for Communicating Effective Apologies 4.10.2 Validate Their Feelings 4.10.3 How to Offer Authentic Emotional Validation 4.10.4 Offer Compensation or Atonement 4.10.5 Acknowledge You Violated Social Norms or Expectations 4.10.6 Effective Apologies in Action 4.10.7 TREATMENT SUMMARY: EFFECTIVE APOLOGIES 4.11 Treatment B: Forgive Yourself 4.11.1 The Steps for Attaining Self-Forgiveness 4.11.2 EXERCISE FOR SELF-FORGIVENESS, PART 1: ACCOUNTABILITY 4.11.3 EXERCISE FOR SELF-FORGIVENESS, PART 2: ATONEMENT 4.11.4 TREATMENT SUMMARY: FORGIVE YOURSELF 4.12 Treatment C: Reengage in Life 4.12.1 EXERCISE FOR SUFFERERS OF SURVIVOR GUILT 4.12.2 EXERCISE FOR SUFFERERS OF SEPARATION GUILT 4.12.3 EXERCISE FOR SUFFERERS OF DISLOYALTY GUILT 4.12.4 TREATMENT SUMMARY: REENGAGE IN LIFE 4.13 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 5 RUMINATION 5.1 Introduction 5.2 The Psychological Wounds Rumination Inflicts 5.2.1 Supersizing Our Misery: Why Rumination and Sadness Are Best Friends Forever 5.2.2 Anger Inflation: How Rumination and Venting Fan the Flames of Fu-ry 5.2.3 Cognitive Leakage: How Rumination Saps Our Intellectual Resources 5.2.4 Strained Relationships: How Our Loved Ones Pay a Price for Our Ruminations 5.3 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Rumination Inflicts 5.4 General Treatment Guidelines 5.5 Treatment A: Change Your Perspective 5.5.1 EXERCISE FOR CHANGING PERSPECTIVES 5.5.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE 5.6 Treatment B: Look at the Birdie! Distract Yourself from Emotional Pain 5.6.1 EXERCISE FOR IDENTIFYING POTENTIAL DISTRACTIONS 5.6.1.1 List the places and situations in which you tend to ruminate most often. 5.6.1.2 For each place and situation, list as many distractions as possible of both 5.6.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: DISTRACTION 5.7 Treatment C: Reframe the Anger 5.7.1 EXERCISE FOR PRACTICING REFRAMING 5.7.1.1 Find the positive intention. 5.7.1.2 Identify the opportunities. 5.7.1.3 Embrace the learning moment. 5.7.1.4 View the offending person as needing spiritual help. 5.7.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: REFRAME THE ANGER 5.8 Treatment D: Go Easy on Your Friends 5.8.1 EXERCISE TO EVALUATE RELATIONSHIP STRAIN 5.8.1.1 How much time has passed since the event in question? 5.8.1.2 How many times have you discussed these issues with this per-son? 5.8.1.3 Does this person feel comfortable bringing up his or her own is-sues and problems? 5.8.1.4 What percentage of your communications with this person is dominated by the subject of your ruminations? 5.8.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: GO EASY ON YOUR FRIENDS 5.9 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 6 FAILURE 6.1 Introduction 6.2 The Psychological Wounds Failure Inflicts 6.2.1 Honey, I Shrunk My Self-Esteem: Why Our Goals Seem Bigger and We Feel Smaller 6.2.2 Why New Year Resolutions Often Nudge Our Self-Esteem in the Wrong Direction 6.2.3 Passivity and Helplessness: Why Not Only Mimes Get Trapped In-side Invisible Boxes 6.2.4 Performance Pressure: What to Expect When Expecting to Fail 6.2.4.1 We Have Nothing to Fear but Fear of Failing Itself 6.2.4.2 Fear of Failure in Families 6.2.4.3 Choking Under the Influence 6.3 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Failure Inflicts 6.3.1 General Treatment Guidelines 6.3.2 Treatment A: Get Support and Get Real 6.3.2.1 EXERCISE TO FACILITATE LEARNING FROM FAILURE 6.3.2.1.1 Failure is a great teacher. 6.3.2.1.2 Failure provides new opportunities. 6.3.2.1.3 Failure can make us stronger. 6.3.2.1.4 Some failures are also successes. 6.3.2.1.5 Failure makes future success more meaningful. 6.3.2.1.6 Success is not always necessary. 6.3.2.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: GET SUPPORT, THEN GET REAL 6.3.3 Treatment B: Focus on Factors in Your Control 6.3.3.1 EXERCISE FOR GAINING CONTROL OF OUR GOAL PLANNING 6.3.3.1.1 Define your goal in as realistic and specific terms as possible. 6.3.3.1.2 Break down the goal into intermediate steps. 6.3.3.1.3 Set time frames for the overall and intermediate goals. 6.3.3.1.4 List any potential detours, setbacks, or temptations that might arise. 6.3.3.1.5 List the possible solutions for each of the above detours, set-backs, or temptations, including what you can do to avoid them and how you plan to implement these solutions. 6.3.3.2 Reexamining Our Execution of the Task 6.3.3.3 EXERCISE FOR GAINING CONTROL OF OUR TASK EXECUTION 6.3.3.3.1 Describe the failure in question. 6.3.3.3.2 List all the factors that contributed to your failure. 6.3.3.3.3 Identify which of the factors on your list are in your control and which are not. 6.3.3.3.4 Go through each factor you listed as being outside your control and try to view it differently. 6.3.3.3.5 Once you’ve completed step 4, create a new list of action items that are within your control. 6.3.3.4 TREATMENT SUMMARY: FOCUS ON FACTORS IN YOUR CONTROL 6.3.4 Treatment C: Take Responsibility and Own the Fear 6.3.4.1 TREATMENT SUMMARY: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY AND OWN THE FEAR 6.3.5 Treatment D: Distract Yourself from Performance Pressure Distrac-tions 6.3.5.1 Whistle While You Choke 6.3.5.2 Mumbling to Yourself During an Exam Does Not Mean You’re Crazy 6.3.5.3 Neutralize the Stereotype 6.3.5.4 TREATMENT SUMMARY: DISTRACT YOURSELF FROM PER-FORMANCE PRESSURE DISTRACTIONS 6.4 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 7 LOW SELF-ESTEEM 7.1 Introducción 7.2 Is Our Self-Esteem Low if We Don’t Think Much of Anyone Else Either? 7.3 The Psychological Wounds Low Self-Esteem Inflicts 7.3.1 Egos Under Siege: Greater Psychological Vulnerability 7.4 Self-Esteem, Stress, and Self-Control 7.5 No Dessert for Me! Why We Resist Positive Feedback and Emotional Nourishment 7.6 Low Self-Esteem and Relationships 7.7 Chronic Backbone Pain: How Low Self-Esteem Makes Us Feel Disempowered 7.8 How to Treat the Psychological Wounds Low Self-Esteem Inflicts 7.9 General Treatment Guidelines 7.10 Treatment A: Adopt Self-Compassion and Silence the Critical Voices in Your Head 7.10.1 EXERCISE FOR ADOPTING SELF-COMPASSION 7.10.1.1 We’ve all experienced failures, embarrassments, humiliations, or rejections that made us feel self-critical and badly about ourselves. Choose one such event and detail what actually happened and how you felt about it. 7.10.1.2 Imagine that the event happened to a dear friend or close family member who then felt terrible about herself (or himself) because of it. Describe that person’s experience of the event, how she would react and feel in the very same situation. 7.10.1.3 You hate seeing this person in emotional pain and you decide to write her a letter with the explicit purpose of making her feel better about herself. 7.10.1.4 Now describe your own experience and your feelings about the event again, but this time, try to be as objective and understanding as you can about what happened and about how you felt. 7.10.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: SELF-COMPASSION 7.11 Treatment B: Identify Your Strengths and Affirm Them 7.11.1 EXERCISE FOR SELF-AFFIRMATION 7.11.1.1 On the first sheet of paper, make a list of your important attributes and qualities, including any achievements you have that are sig-nificant or meaningful to you. Aim for at least ten items and pref-erably many more. 7.11.1.2 If while brainstorming items for your list you think of responses that are negative (e.g., “My boss thinks I’m a terrible employee”), critical (e.g., “I’m a loser”), or sarcastic (e.g., “What am I good at? Let’s see, there’s napping…and I’m a champ at breathing too!”), write them down on the second sheet of paper. 7.11.1.3 Choose one item from the first sheet of paper that is especially meaningful to you and write a brief essay (at least one paragraph) about why this specific attribute, achievement, or experience is meaningful to you and what role you hope it will play in your life. 7.11.1.4 Once you’ve completed the essay, take the second sheet of paper, crumple it into a ball, and throw it in the garbage where it belongs. 7.11.1.5 On subsequent days, choose other items from your positive attrib-ute list and write about them, preferably each day, until you’ve completed the list. 7.11.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: IDENTIFY YOUR STRENGTHS AND AFFIRM THEM 7.12 Treatment C: Increase Your Tolerance for Compliments 7.12.1 EXERCISE TO INCREASE OUR TOLERANCE OF COMPLIMENTS 7.12.1.1 Think back to a time your partner, family member, or friend con-veyed that he or she appreciated, liked, or enjoyed something about you, such as a personal quality you have or something you did that the person felt strongly about. 7.12.1.2 What does displaying this attribute or behavior mean to you? 7.12.1.3 What benefits does having the attribute or behavior bring to your relationships and friendships? 7.12.1.4 What other significant or meaningful functions or roles can the at-tribute or behavior contribute to your life? 7.12.2 TREATMENT SUMMARY: INCREASE TOLERANCE FOR COMPLIMENTS 7.13 Treatment D: Increase Your Personal Empowerment 7.13.1 EXERCISE FOR IDENTIFYING OPTIONS FOR ASSERTIVE ACTION 7.13.1.1 Think about aspects of your life that tend to make you feel frus-trated. 7.13.1.2 Rank your items according to which of them have both a high like-lihood of success and manageable consequences in case of failure. 7.13.2 Gathering Information and Strategic Planning 7.13.3 Practice, Patience, and Persistence 7.13.4 TREATMENT SUMMARY: PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT 7.14 Treatment E: Improve Your Self-Control 7.14.1 Pump Up Your Willpower Muscles 7.14.2 Exercise for Building Willpower 7.14.3 Make Sure You Have Fuel in the Tank 7.14.4 Avoid Temptations and Manage Them When You Cannot 7.14.5 Play One Side of Your Brain Against the Other 7.14.6 Minimize the Damage 7.14.7 Avoid the Triggers 7.14.8 Practice Mindfulness to Tolerate Urges, Impulses, and Cravings 7.14.9 TREATMENT SUMMARY: IMPROVE YOUR SELF-CONTROL 7.15 When to Consult a Mental Health Professional 8 CONCLUSION Create Your Personal Psychological Medicine Cabinet 9 ACKNOWLEDGMENTS 10 NOTES 11 INDEX

I really liked this. Very practical ways of dealing with life's emotional injuries with lots of compelling patient stories and interesting research studies. I feel like I could send this gift to quite a few of my friends and family that refuse therapy but definitely need it.

I cannot understate how direct and clear this book is. The concept of Emotional First Aid can sound kitschy and off-putting but this is genuinely one of the best guidebooks to overall psychological wellbeing I have found. I've read many books that go over CBT and DBT and all of that. This book has very clear steps listed at the end of each chapter that guide you through how to "heal" from the injuries of these various areas of psychological hurt. It also contains one of the most thorough guides to overcoming loneliness that I've ever seen. A lot of books when they touch on this essentially tell you "here's how to make friends: step one remember names!" and go on to tell you how to socialize in that sense, which, by in large is not what people are looking for. This directly goes through the steps of how to do the internal and external work needed to reconnect with those around you and develop relationships. I cannot sing enough praise for this book, I think everyone should have this book just for the understanding it gives of ourselves!

I heard the author interviewed on a couple of podcasts and found his approach refreshingly direct, particularly when so many authors/books dealing with emotional issues can be frustratingly abstract. His approach is that we should treat emotional hurt the same way we treat physical hurt. If we burn our hand we know to remove it from the heat source, and can assess whether the burn will heal by itself, if it can be treated at home or if medical assistance is required, and what might happen if we don't treat it at all. Unfortunately few of us are equipped with the skills needed to assess our emotional injuries and treat them accordingly. This book attempts to remedy that in a very practical way. Each chapter covers a specific issue (eg. rejection, rumination, loneliness, guilt, failure) and looks at causes, symptoms and recommended treatments depending on the severity of the 'wound', and suggests when we might need to speak to a professional. It's written in a logical, down to earth, sympathetic way, with plenty of examples from his experience as a therapist to remind you that you're not alone in feeling the way you do. Although his approach is simple, that doesn't make it easy - just reading the book won't "fix" anything. The reader still has to be pro-active and actually apply the treatment methods suggested.... and unfortunately that's often the hard part! But this seems like an excellent companion to help you along your journey to recovery.

Give you a very good overview of mental health and situations that can engulf your life, tools that can have great positive impact on our life

Fue un libro de regalo, por lo que no tengo opinión respecto a su contenido.

I think this book should be in every home just as a first aid kit. It is really eye opening and worth reviewing regularly. It will not only help yourself, but it will also help you to better understand others, therefore improve your interpersonal relationships.

Maybe the best book for those who soffer for rejection, guilt, failure and other everyday hurts! Guy Winch is telling where those problems come from and how to handle them.