You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships

Buy this book- It will show you how to Thrive not just define Narcissism and simply Survive-- you will also learn practical tools on Thriving, living freer and eventually freed up of permanent scarring of Narcisstic abuse. I started looking up Narcissism on Google, and then YouTube so I got to the point of having an unofficial Doctorate of Psychology/ Philososophy on Narcissistic abuse syndrome to the point of gaslighting myself into wondering if it really was that bad or wondering If I was the narcissist too-- Hint there can't be 2 full blown narcissists in a situationship ( pretend relationship) and Narcissists wouldn't wonder if they are one. What I needed was not more over defining the condition or thing that happened or survival but how to actually thrive afterward- how to forgive myself for ever getting so needy as to be prime narcisstic supply, and how to forgive the other, how to get to the point of neutrality and how to trust myself that my could make it on my own and never be a target or get to the point of being complicit to put up with narcissism again. I would love to have a real adult, grown up healthy relationship--- a partnership for the long haul. I would also like to understand the quanta healing- I already used theta, alpha and gamma healing CD's, and these also available on Youtube as well. I subscribed to Melanie's newsletter. really wanted to buy the NARP program-- couldn't before, due to many bills and tax obligations-which are paid now, so I will buy the NARP program shortly too. Then while I was working on paying my debts, I wondered if there was anything at all on Amazon and Yes, Yes, Yes, there it was, Melanie's book so I bought it--- Can't say I'm cured yet- I barely bought the book, but it has all the elements of her $249.00 course (which I will buy shortly) with all the thriving tools--- I bought both the Kinder Cloud reader version- so as to be able to read on any computer and the book--- never know how long kindle will be around. I bought the book first and then attended her Austalia ( British standard Time) seminar on Sept26,2020- while I was on Pacific Standard Time- for me that was 0100am to 0800am so worth it - OK I could have attended on 09/27 for Pacific standard time but I had another engagement on Sunday--not church though but another healing activity--- thank you for writing this book--- go out and buy a copy everyone

This book was really helpful to me during my divorce. I am generally not a “woo” person so there are parts where I had to suspend my urge to be judgemental and lean into the process. But the somatic/visualization exercises were absolutely effective for me, helping me let process and let go of a lot of the swirling thoughts and feelings that were consuming me. If you set aside time and actually do the exercises she outlines (in a private, safe space, because you will be going deep into your hurt and pain), I’m confident you’ll feel better on the other side. I was actually super shocked by how well it worked; I got relief that a lot of therapy and community support could not provide.

This book has two main sections-- information about narcissistic personality disorder and visualization exercises to heal after abuse. Unless you're truly new to the concept of NPD, I'd suggest skipping part 1 and just working with part 2. The second part is excellent. MTE offers clear instructions on how to heal, reclaim sovereignty over your life, and just feel so much better. The only catch is you have to actually DO the exercises, not just read them ;) It takes some courage to begin, but the results are truly liberating. It's the best specific guidance I've ever seen on HOW to put the pieces back together after abuse. This is the part that earns the 5-star review. The first part is just OK. It advertises MTE's other products a lot, so it reads a bit like an infomercial. I personally don't agree with MTE's opinion that people who have NPD are soulless and incapable of growth. I think her point is to encourage readers to focus on their own growth, detach from the person who abused them, and recognize that love, abundance, and happiness are always available when we know how to access them. I agree that's the only way to truly heal. However, it feels like a huge contradiction to say all of life is connected... EXCEPT certain bad guys. Her techniques to heal and evolve are great; her theory about NPD just doesn't quite resonate with me.

I picked this book up on sale as I had a narcissist in my life for a while. I eventually, after many long years of trying to fix things, ended up going no contact. I was pretty good with the decision at the time, and still am, but I didn't have any backup for that feeling. Thus book helped me know I made the right choice. Only one negative about the book is that I felt in several chapters pushed to join the Thriver community. I felt it could have been lessened or at least an introduction section about it so readers would be aware ahead. But there were many positives including working on your own trauma, which doesn't need to involve a narcissist. I felt I picked up more than just help on dealing with narcissists and learned to reevaluate several issues that I've had and the roots of them to fix them. I feel this book could easily be called something else by dropping the narcissistic part in the title, and maybe changing the subtitle to "learn to get to the root cause of your issues and clear them". Highly recommend this book to anyone with trauma or dealing with a narcissist.

My husband, who is covert narc, autistic and has alexithymia, took this book on a time away from me, my demand. He found this difficult to read but said he is so happy he did. He has actually cried on the phone while telling me that it helped him to understand how badly he had treated me. He said I have a lot of work to do to begin to recover. WOW, finally got his eyes opened to the full impact, the best he can with his brain issues. He says he feels love and sadness for me now. After 62 years of marriage plus one year courting, he finally grasped the horrible life I endured with him. He wasn't willing/able to take my word for it but said he knew I was hurting, he didn't care but he would have mistreated me anyway. I mean wanting to divorce me, kill me but not tell me, lies, isolation, use me etc. plus many affairs he says he has no memory of ever happening. He had no reason to do that but that he had to punish me because I have been "a special woman any man should be happy to have." That was one way he punished himself. I wish I had never met him. The evidence was there but he still denies it happened. He wouldn't give me a divorce, my supply was so superior that he couldn't let me go either but never told me until last year. grrrrrr I was too nice, not ugly, fat, or bad tempered. I must have tolerated that because of love, denial it was possible and PTSD. I was his trophy wife. I loved him so much that I kept giving him time to change. A 5 five-year-old child lived in him too. I didn't pamper it but called him out. Well, he started changing before marriage but I didn't know how much...he wore three different masks. He broke me, shredded my heart, health and nerves. I now have no trust in him. He hopes to be allowed to return but I don't think it is a good idea. I'm finally away from him but my heart aches. Is he manipulating me again? He said my story is worse than what the book described and that I should write a book. I'm willing to do that but not by myself. I'm too fragile right now but my life needs to be disclosed. I need to find a counselor but no luck yet. I didn't get a chance to read the book but will.

As an extremely successful and respected professional, I found myself in the middle of a relationship that I wanted to leave but did not understand why I could not find the strength to let go. I knew intellectually that this was wrong, it was not okay but it seemed like talking to people did not help me and when I was pressing charges for the physical abuse part, the ladies in the prosecutors office explained how strong I was, that this phenomenon of women going back to the abuser is just on repeat and no one understands. I felt this burning in my heart that God was telling me to speak and have a voice and stand up for this so I searched for anything that existed to help me stop this madness. I found Melanie. I bought her NARP program and began doing the modules that help you visualize the healing, and they work. This book is so simply made that anyone, even without any energy to do anything else and who feel like they may just want to give up can do. You can do this! And you can get results. When I started this program, I traveled often and found that professional women all over the United States are going through what you and I have and are dealing with. When I had a massage in Montana, the woman opened up and shared that her husband was abusive. A mother at the pool in DC asked me what I was listening to and when I told her she shared that her daughter was there with her because her husband would not permit her to have her parents at her home, could I talk to her. In Vegas a dealer explained all the women who are in there with these rich men who treat them sooooo poorly. The prosecutor's office. The OB-GYN. All of them I gave the Melanie Tonia Evans sites to give to women, and men, to get something that works! Every one of these people told me they found relief and understanding from this program. All got back to me without my asking, saying thank you for this. Most paid for the NARP program once they read and understood that this is what the "there has to be something to help me stop - or make this stop and let me live again" answer is. For me, I keep running into people who just open up about being abused and I keep telling them about Melanie. I want you to feel better, too. This Narcissism won't go away, but we can heal and protect ourselves from it. You can let go of feeling like you can't live without them and you an afford the life that you want. She will help.

I found this book to very informative and leads you to many helpful resources from the author including free workshops. A must for your book collection if you are wading through the waters of dealing with narcissists. Pat O

This is a must-read if you don't mind rolling up your sleeves, mustering your courage, and doing the amazing work of healing from narcissistic abuse. This includes healing from abuse- related patterns which, unless we change them, can catapult us back into the selfish grasp of one narcissist after another. So far, I am only in the middle of the book, but for me, absorbing some of the profound wisdom of Melanie Tonia Evans and beginning to do the detailed, sensitively-articulated exercises has been like entering a rocket ship whose incredible power to heal and transform, I can feel. It DOES take courage and commitment which I hope and pray I will find a way to summon throughout the work. If I stick with the work I deeply believe the rocket ship will take me to Planet Joy-and-Health with no return to the unfathomably deep, slick-sided Victim Pit. While normally I wouldn't write a review before completing the book being discussed, in this case I trust my strong gut feeling that this book is a life-changer for me. My trust is based on what I've read so far, and on many YouTube videos by Melanie Tonia Evans, that have warmed my soul, sparked my hope and given me a treasure trove of wisdom and skill. Please, please, read the book if you want trustworthy help moving out of the vast abyss of hurt and shame that can seem so impossible to leave behind until we find a path of solid hope, and a deeply caring, brilliant guide like Melanie Tonia Evans. My prayers and well-wishes go out to all who read this review and all who read the book.

This book truly changed my life. I can highly recommend for anyone dealing with a narcissist to read. It's different to other books on that topic, but it really work and help!

Melanie’s work was pivotal for me in my decision to leave my abusive marriage. I first came across her on YouTube and from those ‘Thriver’ videos realised that I was in an abusive marriage. The kind of abuse I suffered was subtle, over many years but all that Melanie was saying begun to help me see what was going on. I’ve been using Melanie’s healing program NARP - Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program since I decided to leave and after looking into all kinds of other treatments/practices believe this is far more effective than any of them. The book is a must read for anyone struggling with a narcissistic relationship, not just intimate partners but family members, bosses, colleagues or friends. It tells us what makes us susceptible to this kind of relationship - chances are if you’ve suffered abuse or a dysfunctional upbringing you could well end up in the same situation as an adult. Throughout the book we learn ways to turn inward to heal the pain and be a source of love to ourselves rather than leaving ourselves vulnerable to being dependant on love from an outside source. That’s not to say we can’t still enjoy love in relationships but that love will be healthier once we have healed ourselves. I can’t thank ‘Mel’ (as she is affectionally known in the Thriver community!) enough for her work. I feel this book will revolutionise the way we deal with this subject. I know - and this is not an exaggeration she has saved lives with this work.

Melanie’s work has helped me with healing past narcissistic abuse as well as family trauma. The only method - Quanta Freedom Healing that worked for me.

Before I found this book, I located one to address my issue of being stuck. It didn't help me much. When I found and began reading this one, it had the supportive on-target plan to tame the abuse beast that took over my adult life. It is the book I needed decades ago but even now I have faith that it will help to purge the poison from the abuse that still rears up unpredictably in my life. I have relied on books and programs to try to heal and this one is very good, and is written by someone who has been there - in narcissistic abuse. I was not aware of the techniques or program before, but I am grateful that it found me at a time I needed it. I expect to refer to it often and pass it on to others who will benefit from it.

ExCellent book, can change your life, beautiful